Comments on: Survival of the Fittest: Closed Mouth Doesn’t Get Fed http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/ Making a Living Online and Lovin' It Thu, 28 Aug 2008 03:23:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2.1 By: Start Video Blogging in Five Easy Steps http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-1223 Start Video Blogging in Five Easy Steps Sun, 03 Feb 2008 19:15:34 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-1223 [...] Lastly, thank you, Stephen, (and a few others in the recent past) for asking me to write this. The open mouth gets fed. [...] […] Lastly, thank you, Stephen, (and a few others in the recent past) for asking me to write this. The open mouth gets fed. […]

]]> By: How I Increased My RSS Subscribers to Nearly 900 in Less than 2 Weeks | Remarkablogger http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-1078 How I Increased My RSS Subscribers to Nearly 900 in Less than 2 Weeks | Remarkablogger Wed, 16 Jan 2008 14:24:03 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-1078 [...] to become a tipping point that catapults you clearly into success territory. Do not be afraid to ask for what you want from people. This isn’t totally selfish: bloggers are always looking for linkworthy material, [...] […] to become a tipping point that catapults you clearly into success territory. Do not be afraid to ask for what you want from people. This isn’t totally selfish: bloggers are always looking for linkworthy material, […]

]]> By: Gavin http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-574 Gavin Mon, 26 Nov 2007 15:16:19 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-574 What a nice way to put it. I spent some time in Nigeria where life is very tough and they have a phrase that echoes the same sentiment. They say "The patient dog starves to death". Great post as always. Gavin What a nice way to put it. I spent some time in Nigeria where life is very tough and they have a phrase that echoes the same sentiment. They say “The patient dog starves to death”.

Great post as always.

Gavin

]]> By: 2008 Goals: Scare Yourself at The Shane & Peter Inc. Blog http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-477 2008 Goals: Scare Yourself at The Shane & Peter Inc. Blog Mon, 19 Nov 2007 05:46:46 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-477 [...] So Julie got great, great, great grandma’s old diamond (pretty neat). Guess sometimes you just got to ask. But if I hadn’t been so focused on it, I would never have ended up with one of the most [...] […] So Julie got great, great, great grandma’s old diamond (pretty neat). Guess sometimes you just got to ask. But if I hadn’t been so focused on it, I would never have ended up with one of the most […]

]]> By: bob http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-433 bob Tue, 13 Nov 2007 16:24:49 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-433 Your right christine: (typing with one arm)lol I had in mind asking for favors or "help" reading your post... and while their are times i have to ask, I still find it difficult. I try to be careful when I do ask because sometimes the answers come at a greater hidden cost than turning your question into a straight forward,"I want to buy your help". with Capt Mike and also the political grind it was a straight forward business proposition... and just seemed to obvious to ignore or pass up... we have a fire fighter ring and he has a fire fighter web site)he doesn't have any ad's on his site, we would like an add on a web site... I don't want him to do it for free or as a favor so I offer him a deal i hope he can't refuse and it's a mutually beneficial arrangement "if" it works... but...it's not working...Nobody has benefitted, no sales, so, I'm going to ask... can you tell me what went wrong and who can fix it? Seems like the concept is workable and simple enough... but the result for 1 month has been dismal. Your right christine: (typing with one arm)lol

I had in mind asking for favors or “help” reading your post… and while their are times i have to ask, I still find it difficult.

I try to be careful when I do ask because sometimes the answers come at a greater hidden cost than turning your question into a straight forward,”I want to buy your help”.

with Capt Mike and also the political grind it was a straight forward business proposition… and just seemed to obvious to ignore or pass up… we have a fire fighter ring and he has a fire fighter web site)he doesn’t have any ad’s on his site, we would like an add on a web site…

I don’t want him to do it for free or as a favor so I offer him a deal i hope he can’t refuse and it’s a mutually beneficial arrangement “if” it works…

but…it’s not working…Nobody has benefitted, no sales, so, I’m going to ask…

can you tell me what went wrong and who can fix it? Seems like the concept is workable and simple enough… but the result for 1 month has been dismal.

]]> By: cokelly http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-429 cokelly Tue, 13 Nov 2007 12:20:55 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-429 Bob! I think you are missing out on not asking for what you want! In fact, I know that asking for what you want is working for you! In your blog post, you "made a call to Captain Mike at Firefighter Blog and showed him the ring and presented our offer..." and he put out an all points bulletin looking for worthy charities that can accept a donation..." I bet if you hadn't asked, he wouldn't have done that. So congrats to you for asking for what you want... and getting it! Bob! I think you are missing out on not asking for what you want! In fact, I know that asking for what you want is working for you! In your blog post, you “made a call to Captain Mike at Firefighter Blog and showed him the ring and presented our offer…” and he put out an all points bulletin looking for worthy charities that can accept a donation…” I bet if you hadn’t asked, he wouldn’t have done that. So congrats to you for asking for what you want… and getting it!

]]> By: bob http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-423 bob Tue, 13 Nov 2007 02:03:03 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-423 Yep, How many times my mom told me the squeeky wheel get's the oil... My preference in hoping a higher power will supply the answers and people (or sometimes false hope and empty promises) at the right time...and I will be spared the effort of having to ask ... Independant self reliant people (stubborn bullheaded) are like that... they don't like to ask... Hell, I can't tell you how many times i've beat my head against a problem not because i didn't think of asking for help but just sheer determination to figure it out myself, do it my way as the song goes... Believe me I'd rather chew off my arm than ask for help in any area of my life... it seems like asking for help is the insult to all injurys.. Just like i'd never ask a customer to "buy" something... god, I have to give them credit for making a purchasing decision based on something other than my prodding. but on the other hand, their are times and questions you know you'll never figure out or, your in a terrible hurry to know or the answer is more important than just one arm...so, What i'd like? I'd like to find a guy to replace myself with... and head to that beach:)Or, I'd like to go back 30 years and start over with what I know now... Yep, How many times my mom told me the squeeky wheel get’s the oil… My preference in hoping a higher power will supply the answers and people (or sometimes false hope and empty promises) at the right time…and I will be spared the effort of having to ask …

Independant self reliant people (stubborn bullheaded) are like that… they don’t like to ask… Hell, I can’t tell you how many times i’ve beat my head against a problem not because i didn’t think of asking for help but just sheer determination to figure it out myself, do it my way as the song goes…

Believe me I’d rather chew off my arm than ask for help in any area of my life… it seems like asking for help is the insult to all injurys..

Just like i’d never ask a customer to “buy” something… god, I have to give them credit for making a purchasing decision based on something other than my prodding.

but on the other hand, their are times and questions you know you’ll never figure out or, your in a terrible hurry to know or the answer is more important than just one arm…so,

What i’d like? I’d like to find a guy to replace myself with… and head to that beach:)Or, I’d like to go back 30 years and start over with what I know now…

]]> By: Michael Martine http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-389 Michael Martine Fri, 09 Nov 2007 14:11:22 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-389 Christine, that's a great point! Asking requires people to come out of their shells, get out of their own head, and show some chutzpah -- take a <strong>risk</strong>. And that means most people won't do it. If you do it, you're already ahead of most people. Christine, that’s a great point! Asking requires people to come out of their shells, get out of their own head, and show some chutzpah — take a risk. And that means most people won’t do it. If you do it, you’re already ahead of most people.

]]> By: cokelly http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-388 cokelly Fri, 09 Nov 2007 14:05:51 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-388 Smart way of thinking Liz... there is a reason why you are leading and empowering women entrepreneurs! Smart way of thinking Liz… there is a reason why you are leading and empowering women entrepreneurs!

]]> By: cokelly http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-387 cokelly Fri, 09 Nov 2007 14:02:44 +0000 http://selfmadechick.com/2007/11/05/closed-mouth-doesnt-get-fed/#comment-387 It is wild isn’t it… You can look online at all of your competition… but really you can cut away a huge percentage of them as “real” competition because most of them are too afraid to ask for what they need to take their business to the next level. It is wild isn’t it… You can look online at all of your competition… but really you can cut away a huge percentage of them as “real” competition because most of them are too afraid to ask for what they need to take their business to the next level.

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